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living in a perfect world

All my life there have been things I would have done, or could have done, or should have done, but did not do.

This year I want more do. I live in the “perfect world” according to the flagpagetest.com survey. It’s a test that helps you discover what motivates you, created by Mark Gungor of “Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage”.

This blog is only being created because I am fighting the desire to have it perfect.  I never created a blog because I couldn’t decide on the typeface. Years of not writing, because it wouldn’t have been perfect. Years of not painting because it wouldn’t have been perfect.

Years wasted.

So here is my first post, in all its imperfection.  A start on a new life of creating, writing and building.

About Pamela Hodges

My name is Pamela Hodges. I am a writer and an artist. I write to encourage and to bring laughter. I paint cats, draw cartoons and write books for children and grown ups.

You are an artist. Yes, you are. Really.

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  • Sreekala Nayar

    I came across your blog only today, was intrigued and searched your archives for your first post. And would you believe it, it’s almost exactly like my own first blog post in that I began it to fight my perfectionism. I write at notsoperfectkarthi in blogspot. I won’t put my url because I’m afraid it will seem like blatant self-promotion, so just telling you 🙂

    I understand where you come from, even down to the child-molestation episode, thankfully, mine was much milder, at the same age as you were and fortunately I had the sense to say that I would call my Mom and immediately the guy let go of me. But now I realize that I have never mentioned it once to my Mom or Dad. They have always been vigilant, but yes, perverts can use the slimmest of chances and parents cannot be everywhere. I used to think my Dad was over-protective of his daughters – but now when I watch the news, (there have been two massive cases of gang rape of women accompanied by a male escort in India this year, one girl died as a result of the horrible injuries inflicted on her when she tried to fight off her assailants) I feel only gratitude for the care my father took of us.

    Thanks for writing about all this Pamela. Hope you feel better now. I read The War of Art this year and have put up a list of the characteristics of professionals and try to adhere to it – in fits and starts, of course 🙂

    • Dear Sreekala,

      Thank you for reading my writing and taking the time to comment. Your story does sound similar to mine.

      Thank you for giving me the URL for you blog. I will read it today. It is early now, and I have to make breakfast soon for my family.

      I do feel better now. Thank you for your concern. I should re-read “The War of Art.” I am slipping into my bad habit of staying up to late reading the news.

      All the best,

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  • Wayne Niddery

    “Perfection” in my opinion is more in the effort, not the result. Setting “perfection” as the goal is self-defeating and that’s why it saps motivation; setting high, but achievable, goals sets you free to make the effort.

    • pamelahodges

      Yes, high, achievable goals. I like that.

  • Kevin Aschacker

    A while ago I saw your facebook post that you’d started writing, Pamela, and thinking I’d check out your blog, promptly forgot about it. I thought I’d have a look today, and you know what? Your posts are honest and distilled, and fun to read. And funnily enough, one of them went right to the heart of things for me: ‘years of not writing because it wouldn’t have been perfect. Years of not painting because it wouldn’t have been perfect’. I’m glad to know there are others who have these self-limiting thoughts. Intellectually, of course, I know that these others exist, and have known for a long time. The emotional realization is another thing though, and that’s where the impression is made, and where it is real. Thanks for that.

    • Thank you for your comments Kevin,
      Have you started to paint? Painting as you see the world?
      To be fair, don’t compare.
      I don’t know where I heard that. But it helps me when I create. I don’t have to be like anyone else. I just have to be me.

  • Robin Patrick

    Pamela, I have lived like this too. Always waiting until I could “get it right.” It sucks the desire right out of me. Well, maybe not the desire, but the energy and enjoyment in being involved in creative activities.

    P.S. Glad you got the cancer quickly!