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The dishwasher was full of clean dishes









I opened the dishwasher this morning. I was going to put dirty dishes in it. I opened the door and pulled out the bottom tray.

It was full of clean dishes.

I did not load the dishwasher.

I did not run it.

My husband put dirty dishes in the dishwasher yesterday. He put soap in the container in the door of the dishwasher. He shut the door. He turned it on. The dishes were washed. The dishes were clean.

This morning I saw my husbands love for me in the clean dishes. A little reminder that he was thinking of me. A little reminder that he loves me.

A small detail of life. Clean dishes.

Did you see love in a small detail today?




About Pamela Hodges

My name is Pamela Hodges. I am a writer and an artist. I write to encourage and to bring laughter. I paint cats, draw cartoons and write books for children and grown ups.

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  • I love the photo to capture the sight that triggered your appreciation! I have been trying to notice all these little signs my husband leaves for me–signs that I am cared for AND the hardest part is not just the noticing, but making sure I tell him that I notice. I think he suspicious of me because I am being so expressive lately! It sure is the little things that add up to happiness.

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you for letting me know you liked the photograph 🙂 I take all of the photographs for my stories. Has you husband killed any more spiders for you? I agree with you. It is the little things that add up to happiness. He must be a sweetheart, if you have noticed so many things.

  • What a wonderful husband. When my husband does those little things for me it makes me feel extra special. My husband did the laundry for me tonight! 🙂 It felt great to have that off my plate.

    • pamelahodges

      It is the little things that count. How nice that your husband did the laundry. That gives you more time to cuddle your baby 🙂

  • That was so special for me to read how Nick showed his love for you…..YES…..he is definitley a keeper!!!!! 🙂

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Mom. Yes, I will keep him. After twenty-two years of ups and downs and clean and dirty dishes, I still love him.

  • It was actually really nice reading all your comments too, Pamela. Yes, I notice those little surprises & appreciate them. I wonder if I do enough of them too. I attended a funeral today of a beloved staff member who has fought cancer for 4 years. Many of us from school were there, parents, students, and almost all the staff. It was goodbye to a longtime employee and wonderful person. I saw many hugs, lots of laughs & good stories, people doing those little things to try to bolster feelings. Thanks for telling your little thing. Nice to hear.

    • pamelahodges

      Linda, how very sad to have a friend die. How nice to see love and hugs, people trying to help each other.

  • I wonder what little things I can do today to remind someone I love them? Send a text to a friend who is in a funk, buy another batch of dried apricots to put by my hubby’s chair for him to snack on, run some towels through the wash for my son, put a little sign that says “joy” into my colleague’s desk drawer……………

    • pamelahodges

      Your list is so thoughtful. I want to think today of how I can show love to others. I was looking for love in my day, now I want to show love.

  • nanc

    You really reminded me to look for that kindness. Today a friend gave me a tea bag for my laryngitis (I hate not being able to talk). I love that simple act. I want to remember to do those things for others also.

    • pamelahodges

      I pray you feel better. It must be hard to be a teacher and not be able to talk 🙂

  • My son-in-law is living with us right now while my daughter is doing her PA rotations. He is working as a paraprofessional at my school, and tonight he had dinner on the table when I came home! He’s a keeper and I’m so glad to have this time to get to know him better. They love him at my school too!

    • pamelahodges

      He was so thoughtful to have dinner on the table. He does sound like a keeper.

  • The greatest gifts are those unexpected blessings that grant us a few extra moments in the day to do what we love – like blog!

    • pamelahodges

      Yes, unexpected blessings are a great gift.

  • Like you, I try to find the love in the small details every day. Tonight, it was my husband dressing our daughter after her bath because my neck/back was in pain. That’s usually my job, but he did it since I was with her all day today. It’s the little things like that that remind me of how much he cares for me.

    • pamelahodges

      Stacey, that is so sweet the he dressed your daughter after her bath. I am sorry that your neck/back was in pain. I hope you feel better tomorrow. He loves you.

  • It may sound unusual, but a little thing today was when my sister said, “Wait, you were not dismissed.” Those words, though said jokingly, were spoken in a serious context, and let me know she needed me, was depending on me… and that meant the world to me. Sometimes noticing is listening, and getting the message.

    • pamelahodges

      How special to have a sister who needed you and was depending on you. And how special that you stayed. A sister to love and be loved by. I have no sisters and one brother. I am grateful for his friendship and the time we talk on the phone. I have not seen him in years.

  • The little things make the difference. We just have to remember to appreciate them. What a gift!

    • pamelahodges

      Yes, sometimes I take the little things for granted. I notice more as my brain turns to writing.

  • Every morning there is love in my coffee cup. Last night, my sweetheart went grocery shopping for me (usually my job, but I was done for last night) and tonight I dropped his forgotten jacket off at the soccer field. Little gestures are filled with love.

    • pamelahodges

      Love in your coffee cup. The little things make such a difference. Black or with cream and sugar?

  • Elsie

    Those small deeds speak volumes. You have a good man.

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Elsie. I love him.

  • Judy C.

    Yes, it’s the little things that make me smile. My hubby is great for doing those little things – making the bed, fixing supper, pouring me a glass of wine, burning the garbage. It’s the little things that make me know how much I am loved.

    • pamelahodges

      How nice your hubby shows you his love in the little things. I wonder what he made for supper today?