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This is the Year of The Blue Toilet Seat


My daughter and I went to a local hardware store to buy a new toilet seat for our cream-colored toilet. I was going to buy  a toilet seat in a matching  cream color.

My daughter wanted the blue toilet seat. “Mama, lets buy the blue one.”

“No, it doesn’t match.”

I bought the cream-colored toilet seat and took it home.  But, I didn’t install it. I kept thinking about the blue toilet seat. Why didn’t I buy the blue one?  Did I care what people would think if the toilet seat didn’t match?

Is there a rule book out there somewhere that says all toilet lids have to match the bowl color.  Is there an eleventh commandment , “Though shalt always buy a toilet seat that is the same color as the toilet bowl.”

No, there is no rule about the color of toilet seats.

There is also no rule telling me that I have to cut my hair short because I am over the age of fifty. I have long hair. I am growing a braid down my back.

There is no rule that says I have to eat  my can of sardines and vegetables before I eat my dessert. Tonight I ate  my strawberries and whipped cream before my sardines and vegetables.

There is no rule that says I have to die my gray hair dark brown or black.  I like my hair gray.  There is no rule that says my head has to be the same color as a bottle in a box.

I returned the cream-colored toilet seat. I bought the blue toilet seat.

I proclaim 2013 to be The Year Of The Blue Toilet  Seat


This is the year to be bold and have fun. This is the year to embrace the color in your life.

And besides, the blue toilet seat matches the blue eyes of the cat I painted.

What is the Blue Toilet Seat in your life? How will you bold this year?

Please tell me in the comments. I would love to chat.


About Pamela Hodges

My name is Pamela Hodges. I am a writer and an artist. I write to encourage and to bring laughter. I paint cats, draw cartoons and write books for children and grown ups.

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  • jennypowell

    Love this! And I also will NEVER follow that rule of short hair over 50 (I turn 40 in a few weeks and know people my age who have already cut it off).

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  • This is absolutely fantastic! I love the analogy. Love that you went back and bought the blue toilet seat. Love the cat painting! Awesome. Bold. I so want to be bold!

  • Erika Simone

    Pamela – first, I love how that blue toilet seat looks in your bathroom! Secondly, thank you for the challenge.

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  • Oh how this made me smile. I am proud of your choice! Once we painted every room in a yucky dated rental a bright color. It was known as the “Skittles” house amongst our friends but we didn’t care. It made us happy in a difficult season of life

    • pamelahodges

      Bright colors can be a real mood booster. I would love to have seen your “Skittles” house.I am sorry you had a difficult season. I pray this year is full of color for you, in a season of joy. All the best. Pamela

  • Pamela,
    I love THIS! It’s tough to have the courage to just go with what you feel, even when it doesn’t fit social norms. I am really excited about the idea of pushing forward with the idea of being bold, no matter what

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Chris. Is there a blue toilet seat in your life?

      • Honestly, blogging my heart rather regardless of what anyone else might think or feel is my blue toilet seat.

  • Pamela,

    Bold is a great word to live by, especially the way you do it. Your inner voice of conventionality is about to feel the boldness of your heart. Way to buy a blue seat, and it does look great with your cat’s eyes. I can’t wait to read where your bold adventure of 2013 leads you.

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Maya. I am excited for this year as well.

  • Pamela,
    I love your BLUE toilet seat and I love that your word for the new year is BOLD! Go for it!

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Amy. I will boldly go where no blue toilet seat has gone before. What is your word for this year?

  • Not only were you bold but you validated your daughter! You rock.

  • Pam this is a great post!

    Many, including my husband, thought that I was a “good little girl”, a conformist. Soon enough they all found out that I will not fall for what everyone else does but rther follow my own heart, which never steers me wrong, whether they like it or not, as long as they are not hurt.
    I am 66years old and have gray hair since I was 40. I will never die it.
    I have chosen to live in the same home to 47 years, even thought my husband repeatedly considered bying a biger house. After bringing up our children, I decided to go back to school at the age of 42 and, when I told everyone I was writing a book, many could not understand why I couldn’t be happy cooking, washing dishes, and taking care everyone else.
    Most of my extra money went to books and charities and my free time was not spent at malls but rather in museums and schools and hospitals where I volunteered.

    What I am getting at is that I am a “good” wife, mother, grandmother, daughter, and friend that loves her family, and all know that. But when it comes a time to do what I need to do withouth hurting anyone else, then I do it whether any one likes it or not. Sooner of later, they get to be my cheerleaders.

    Thanks for giving me the opportunity to be BOLD!

  • You’re awesome for going back and buying the blue toilet seat. Be bold. Be brave. Be you this year and always.

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Stacey. Yes, this year and always. If I am not myself, then who am I?

  • Bev

    Love your story! So often we say no automaticaaly. Love that you returned the no-colour for the blue seat! Everyday you will be reminded that you are bold!
    happy new year!

    • pamelahodges

      Happy New Year Bev. A good reminder to be bold. Now to remember to keep the lid down. The cats keep trying to drink from it.

  • Love the idea you expressed here Pamela and loved that you posted a photo! This reminds me of that poem about when I’m old, I’ll wear purple. Very clever and creative way to express this. Well written. I enjoyed it.

    • pamelahodges

      Sharon, thank you for your encouragement. Hmm, I have started to wear red, maybe I should change my color to purple.

  • I love the analogy! That’s how I want to live my new year, and I already started by stepping out and facing a fear today!

    • pamelahodges

      Yeah Stacy! Facing a fear is bold and brave. A great way to start the new year.

  • Awe-mazing post! I’m SO IN!! One of the key values my wife and I ascribe to is in the quote”Everything popular is wrong.” We’ve done pretty well so far, but all our toilet seats still match, (and I care way too much what other people think), so here we go!

    • pamelahodges

      Mike, your quote is great. I also care way too much what other people think. The Year of the Blue Toilet Seat, is a challenge to be different. I added you as a friend on facebook. Once you accept I can add you to the group. I would love to add your wife as well, if she would like to join. Two Loomis’s are better than one.

      • My non-conformist (and smart!) wife doesn’t do facebook – we share my account. Two for one!

  • Pat Meyers

    Happy Blue Toilet Seat Year To You!

    • pamelahodges

      And Happy Blue Toilet Seat to you as well!

  • I love how you view the world through a different lens (toilet seat)! And, I love the cat that looks through his blue eyes at the same. Another blogging friend talked about claiming a word for the year. Embrace seems to be your word for the year. Maybe mine, too. Happy New Year’s!

    • pamelahodges

      Happy New Year Shelley! Embrace, that is a good word. Embrace who we are.

  • I love this mantra. I have been thinking about going red. I have been blonde all my life. It does come out of a box now. Why not? I have embraced red in other areas of my life: my car, my bathrobe, my ball gown. You make me feel brave and bold. But then, maybe, I might not.

    • pamelahodges

      Margaret,if you want to have red hair, or green hair, or purple hair, you will still be Margaret. Just more colorful.
      I went bold last month and bought red eyeglass frames.
      Now I am curious to see what you will do. 🙂

  • Jaana

    Empowering! I feel like I have more energy by just reading you post! BOLD and blue toilet seat–have to remember both of them during this year. Maybe written on a sticky note at school to remind me when the day gets difficult 🙂

    • pamelahodges

      I may have to start a Blue Toilet Seat club. Would you like to join? You don’t even have to own a blue Toilet Seat.

  • Pamela,

    Loved it. And I’ll be smiling all day as I think about it. Happy New Years, my friend.

    • pamelahodges

      Happy New Year Anne. I hope you are feeling better. The world needs your words.

  • I love this! Homes are for free expression, not first impressions. 🙂 I’ve decided to surround myself with things I absolutely love — regardless of whether or not they “fit” or “match”.
    Thank you bringing a smile to my face today. I’ll be back. 🙂

    • pamelahodges

      Hi Jenny, yes, free expression not first impressions. I look forward to seeing you again. Happy New Year.

  • meow!

    • pamelahodges

      Meow, meow meow meow. My cat Pooh just said Happy New Year.

  • writekimwrite

    My internal dialogue is full of insignificant “rules” that I let guide me. Now you have given me words to combat them ( blue toilet seat). They help give me the confidence to challenge all kinds of assumptions. Happy 2013 and I look forward to reading more of your BOLD thoughts!

    • pamelahodges

      Yes Kim, challenge the assumptions in your life. Happy New Year. May you boldly go forth, thinking, “Blue toilet seat.”

  • fireflytrails

    I like the blue toilet seat and the process of decision making and courage behind it. And I LOVE the cat picture (and I don’t even like cats!) Be BOLD, my friend, and continue to refresh us in the new year! Happy 2013!

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you, I appreciate your comments. Glad you like the cat picture. He brightens up the bathroom.

  • 2013– the year of the blue toilet seat! The year of BOLD! I love it! And the first thing I noticed was that the blue matched the cats’ eyes! How cool that you painted it. My hair is going grey too. I haven’t done anything about it either…

    • pamelahodges

      Yeah for grey hair! and blue toilet seats.

  • I agree that we shouldn’t choose to follow the crowd. I embrace my individuality, and so should you. Be bold!

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Lory. I will embrace who I am. Yes, be bold. Embrace The Year of the Blue Toilet Bowl Seat!

  • Awesome.

    I love how you are embracing BOLD. I, on the other hand, have been shying away from it. I will come around, I’m sure. Just in my slow way.

    I’m going to be thinking about your blue toilet seat and what rule will be broken around my home as a constant reminder to focus on what’s important.

    As always, I’m glad you wrote.


    • pamelahodges

      Ruth, Bold is not something I do easily either. I tend to hide out in the background. I wonder what rule you fill break in your house. Maybe you just need to buy a blue toilet seat. 🙂

  • Winnie

    Pamela…I love your blue toilet seat, and I’m so glad you went back for it. I often wear mismatching socks just for fun, I think it shows off a little bit of my personality. I have socks that match, but I want to be colorful and fun, and not so “normal” lol I hope you have a very blessed new year, thank you for all your prayers and being a great friend!!

    • pamelahodges

      Hi Winnie, I will have to check out your socks the next time I see you. I hope you have a blessed new year as well.

  • To find the joy in the little things in life is a great way to start this year. I too am celebrating the “it doesn’t have to be matched” state of existence as I sit here in my now adult daughter’s 7th grade sweatshirt and my now adult son’s left over high school gym sweatpants (my New Year Eve’s outfit)!

    • pamelahodges

      Anita, you must look beautiful, and feel very warm. Happy New Year Anita!

  • Elsie

    Bold is a great word to use to guide you through life. You are an inspiration to live life on your own terms. Keep inspiring!

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Elsie for your continual encouragement. You were my first friend to subscribe to my blog. I still think of you when I walk past strawberries at the Grocery Store.

  • Love this, Pamela! I’m raising a glass today to blue toilet seats everywhere! I will be turning fifty this year, and my hair is the longest it’s been in years. I hear you!

    • pamelahodges

      Janelle, I raise my glass with you! May your life be full of Blue Toilet Seats, and long hair. Happy Birthday to you. I will paint you a special birthday card and mail it to you in Canada.