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Your Child is Listening. Be Careful What You Say.

The mother said, “She is not very good at choosing her clothes. They never match.”

The woman standing next to her nodded her head and didn’t say anything.

The mother said, “She insisted. She wanted to wear that today. She really doesn’t do a good job choosing her clothes.”

I overheard a mother talking about  the outfit her daughter was wearing. The girl was about five or six. She was wearing a long formal skirt with a sweatshirt on top.

The little girl was staring at the floor, digging  into the linoleum with the tip of her shoe.

The words she heard did not encourage her. The words she heard did not benefit her.

“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”  Ephesians 4:29

Words have the power to heal. Words have the power to wound.

Be careful what you say in front of your child.

They can hear you.

They may believe you.






About Pamela Hodges

My name is Pamela Hodges. I am a writer and an artist. I write to encourage and to bring laughter. I paint cats, draw cartoons and write books for children and grown ups.

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  • Powerful stuff.

  • Sue

    I learned to not be so bothered when my children chose outfits that didn’t ‘fit the norm’ in some way, and to allow them to enjoy the time in life when they could choose whatever they wanted. My youngest (now 14) used to dress like a princess every day, including a crown (yes, even to church). I loved it! Her older siblings did not. I told them to leave her alone, if it was a reflection on anyone, it was a reflection on me (and I didn’t care!). It was part of childhood. She learned to wear matching clothes, and she also has a style all her own, that doesn’t necessarily ‘fit the norm’ but it makes her happy (and is decent and modest).

  • La McCoy

    Important reminder.

  • That is so true. Too often parents, relatives, friends of parents do not really notice what they say in front of a child. Sometimes they believe that if they say something insulting, demeaning, it will teach the child to do better next time. I’ve seen many times how parents intentionally hurt the child saying nasty things hoping that the kid will learn something from it. And who else should the kids believe if not their own parents?
    What many adults do not understand is that all the fears of being worse than everyone else, all the disappointments, shutting down sometimes goes back to something someone said back when you were a child.

    • pamelahodges

      Lena, thank you for your comments. The only thing a child learns from mean words is to be quiet, and to stop believing in themselves. Sad.