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Did you remember to say, “I love you?”

November 9, 1981. The day my mom married Edwin John Bodley.

This past week while I have been looking for my glasses, my step-father was admitted to the hospital.  He had a small stroke, and was driven to the hospital in an ambulance.  My mother sat beside him during the ride. I imagine the sirens were blaring, and they got to drive through red lights.  Maybe some one driving past heard the siren and prayed for the passenger, Edwin John Bodley.

Edwin John Bodley has been alive for 86 years, 7 months and 25 days.

When they arrived at the hospital he was admitted and given a drug to break up  blood clots.  In  room 6323 at the Royal University Hospital, with three other people in the room, he told my mother, ” I love you. I appreciate all the help you have given me this past year.  Thank you for taking care of me, I love you.”

I called my mother a few minutes ago, to make sure I quoted him accurately.

“Yes, it was something like that. I can’t remember exactly.   I already knew he loved me, but it was nice to hear it.”

They have been married for 31 years, 2 months and 24 days.

When my mother went to the hospital the morning after her husband had been driven to the hospital in an ambulance, Edwin John Bodley had bleeding on the brain. His eyes were closed.  He was not talking.  He has not sat up, eaten a bowl of soup, or held my mother’s hand since then. He has a feeding tube, and appears to be sleeping.

My mother said, “Good thing he told me he loved me, because I never heard from him again.”

My mother sat beside his bed, and pulled down the side rail. She leaned over and talked loudly in his ear, ” Eddie, Eddie, are you in there?  Wake up Ed.  I love you.”

Then she blew raspberries on his face. While she was doing this, she felt someone was standing behind her. She turned around and four doctors were standing there patiently waiting to see Ed. They were all smiling.

Today I will write Ed a letter. I will tell him I love him. I will ask my mother to read him the card. She will have to talk loud if he doesn’t have his hearing aids in. I think he can still hear.

Is there someone you need to write to today? Is there someone you want to tell, “I love you?”

About Pamela Hodges

My name is Pamela Hodges. I am a writer and an artist. I write to encourage and to bring laughter. I paint cats, draw cartoons and write books for children and grown ups.

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  • For me it has always been my greatest gift I have for my children and my husband & that is to tell them every day “I love you”…..we never know when these few words can no longer be delivered……..I love you Pamela Berdeane (Jane)

  • God Bless you all. lmc

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you La. Hello to Edelweiss.

  • Michelle Rusk

    Dear Pamela, Thinking of your Mom and you. I will pray for Ed and the rest of your family. I love you and do you know we have been good friends for over 43 years and first met each other when we were 4 in kindergarten 50 years ago!! Whether near or far you are part of my heart. I know she may be at the hospital, but I will give her a call.

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you for your prayers. Yes, we have been friends for a long time. Michelle, my faithful friend, I love you. Thank you for offering to call my mom.

  • I love you, Pamela. But I told you that before I went to work this morning. 😉

    • pamelahodges

      I love you too Mr. Hodges. Did you know we have been married for 22 years, 4 months and 11 days?

  • We (hubby & I) have several older friends who have had strokes. Their lives have changed, tremendously. I will pray for your step-father, Edwin John Bodley and for your mother, Mrs. Bodley.

    I know your card will be greatly appreciated. I bet if you painted him one of your cats, it would make him smile from ear to ear.

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Shelley for your prayers. I will make him a card today, with a cat.

  • Winnie

    Today on my massive TO DO list I have write letters…there are a few people I need to write to…one of them is my dad, that one will be the most difficult, but I don’t know what may happen while I am in China, so I wanted to make sure that despite the many flaws he has (as I have many too) he knows that I love him because God first loved Him. Praying for you and your family, thanks for sharing this as a reminder to me…

    • pamelahodges

      Good Morning Winnie. Thank you for sharing about the letters you will write today, before you leave for China. Sometimes we just need a reminder. I will go and write some letters today as well.