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Get Prudence and win the prize

Get prudence and win the prize

There are 6,309 people in the United Stated named Prudence. Prudence is the 2397th most popular name in the United States. 99.9% of people with the first name Prudence are female.

Please do not try to find one of the 6,309 people in the United States named Prudence to win the prize. If you did, you could be charged with kidnapping, and there would be no prize.

I am talking about the prudence that Solomon, son of King David,  talks about in the book of Proverbs in the Bible.

I, wisdom, dwell together with prudence;
I possess knowledge and discretion.
Proverbs 8:12


Whoever strays from the path of prudence
comes to rest in the company of the dead.
Proverbs 21:16


Prudence is the ability to govern and disciple oneself by the use of reason. 

When you were a child your parents told you when to go to bed. They made sure you ate a healthy diet, and disciplined you when you hit your brother or sister, or when you lied.

Now you are an adult.  You buy your own groceries and prepare your own meals. You live on your own, and pay rent, or a mortgage. You decide when you go to bed, and you hopefully stopped hitting your brother. If you lie, only you and God know.

You have stepped away from having someone else govern and discipline you.

It is time to learn how to govern and discipline yourself.

You need Prudence.

“I have trouble going to bed when I should. I stay up late watching movies.”

“I don’t want to eat cake anymore, but I struggle with my food choices.”

I can’t find my hammer because I never put it away after I use it.”

 Does this sound like you?

Do you want to be different?

You can.

You think you need someone to tell you what to do. You are looking for change to come from someone else, from outside yourself. You keep buying self-help books; you have hired a life coach, or you have an accountability partner.

All of the ways and methods you are trying are a step in the right direction. Books can give you wisdom, and coaches and accountability partners can help you learn and change. I have several accountability partners, and friends who pray for me not to eat bananas.

True change only comes from within.

My accountability partner or life coach isn’t with me every time I walk past the fruit bowl. They are not there when I pick up the banana and start to peel it.

I must have self-control. I have to be prudent.

I have to tell myself what to do, and I have to listen to what I say.

“Hey Hodges, put that banana down. Hey, you peeled it. Now you took a bite. Spit it out! Spit it out!”  I finally listened to myself and spit out the piece of banana. I haven’t eaten a banana since I wrote about my addiction.

I want to win the prize. I want to have prudence. I want to be prudent.

“I went to bed when I said I would.”

“I didn’t have a piece of chocolate cake at the birthday party last night.” 

 “I put my hammer away when I used it, and now I know where it is.” 

P.S. You win the prize with self-discipline. Don’t wait for someone to give you a trophy. ( You can tweet that here if you would like to.) You win the trophy on your own, by self-control. Go ahead, put a trophy on your mantel. I did. Now I need to get a trophy of a banana.

A trophy on the mantel

Do you listen to yourself? Do you have prudence?

Please tell me in the comments. I would love to chat.


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  • Berdeane Bodley

    pamela, I was just going over some of your stories & noticed the granmother clock sitting beside the fireplace. how in the world did I miss it the first time around?? I have often wondered if you still had it! Does it work? Too bad the chimes got jammed. It looks good there beside the fireplace……………

  • Berdeane Bodley

    Pardon me for asking, but is that trophy in the picture one that used to belong to me?? I seem to remember winning trophies for my club calves & gave them to you, or am I just dreaming untrue things?? Love your painting over the fireplace, it deserves a trophy !!

  • I like to think of prudence as wisdom in action. And, once again I am up too late. Thanks for the gentle nudging.

    • pamelahodges

      Oh dear, I needed to read my own story. I stayed up way too late reading the news. I feel like a zombie today. I needed more than gentle nudging last night to get to bed.

  • Pamela,
    You are insightfully hilarious or comedically perceptive or something of that nature. I am loving the substance and the form of your slices. I think I am prudent with many things, but could still apply my prudence to other areas of my life.

    • pamelahodges

      Mardie, I need prudence like a fish needs water. I stayed up until 1:23 a.m. reading silly news stories the same day I wrote this story.

  • writekimwrite

    Prudence is an old fashioned word for such a timeless pursuit. I will say to myself, you need to be prudent but then I will add Pamela says so. Will that still count?

    • pamelahodges

      Kim, yes that will still count. We have to listen to someone, don’t we? Whenever I get sick, I hear my mother telling me to drink plenty of liquids.

  • The more I read, the more I realized I am becoming addicted to your posts. You are so incredibly clever and creative, and always end your posts in a way that makes me want to reply. I am going to add you blogs I follow, not just for entertainment, but for the education. I have a feeling I can learn a lot from you…..and hopefully I will:-)

    • pamelahodges

      Dear Dar,
      Your words encourage me today. I am delighted you are becoming addicted to my posts. Just be careful of bananas.

  • Sometimes I listen to myself. More now than in the past. Sometimes it’s hard to shut out all the other noises so that I can actually hear myself … and then I still have to find the wisdom to listen.

    I was writing something about this in my journal last night, about listening (prudence) being a way of taking care of myself and that sometimes it’s just easier not to do it, not to take care of myself. I want someone else to do it. I want a whole team of someone-elses to do it. But there’s only me.

    But I’ve begun listening — more often, more closely, more.

    • pamelahodges

      Yes, sometimes we can’t even hear ourselves. I have begun as well. It is time to take care of ourselves.

  • This quote is awesome: “You win the prize with self-discipline. Don’t wait for someone to give you a trophy.”

    We miss so much when we wait for someone else to validate our choices. Well said Pamela

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Chris.

  • This made me smile. I promise to seek prudence and not any of the 6,ooo+ Prudences in the world. 🙂

    • pamelahodges

      Glad to bring you a smile.

  • The seriousness yet hilarity of it all was just a wonderful blend.

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Dana.

  • elsie

    Pamela, you always give me something to think about and you do it with such humor. I am usually chuckling as I get to the end of your post, but also mulling over the thoughts/lessons you have written. Prudence, interesting word and you have valid points. Yes, I think I have prudence, now I must see if there are any bananas left.

    • pamelahodges

      Hello Elsie. Please eat a banana for me. 🙂