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Kathleen Caron and The Wicked Witch of The West

Kathleen Caron and Pamela Hodges

Somewhere out in  the audience at the 4:00 o’clock performance of Dorothy Meets Alice, was a friend I had never met. She had just driven  189.75 miles  from her home in Northern Virginia to DCP Theater in Telford, Pennsylvania to see me perform as The Wicked Witch of The West.

We had met through the internet last fall when we took the on-line writing course, Tribe Writers, taught by Jeff Goins. We both signed up for the eight week course because we wanted to learn how to write, publish, and build an audience.

Jeff Goins also said, “You’ll have opportunities to meet others going through the experience and make lifelong friends and advocates.”

I signed up for Goins first Tribewriter class, expecting to learn how to write and build a platform with my blog. I did not expect to make any friends, let alone life-long friends, through his course.

Real friends can only be made in person.
How do I know the person I met on-line is real? What if they are just pretending to be nice. What if they really just want to steal my seven litter boxes?

Yesterday at 5:00 p.m. when we had our curtain call for Dorothy Meets Alice, I met my internet friend, my pen-pal, Kathleen Caron. Kathleen is a real person, who writes at {full of life}.   She even looks like her photograph. I also met her daughter Marie, who looks just like the girl in the family photograph on Caron’s About Page on her blog.

Kathleen Caron did not drive for 3 hours and 45 minutes  from Northern Virginia to steal my litter boxes. She doesn’t even have a cat. She has a dog named Tink.  She came to see the play, because I invited her.  I wanted to meet my pen-pal.

Kathleen will always be my friend.  She does have her black belt in tae kwon do. So she could have taken all of my litter boxes if she wanted to. ( I knew she had a dog. So, I felt my litter boxes were safe. )

Real friends can be made on-line. 

Jeff Goins was right.

I did make a life-long friend through the Tribe Writer course.

Now, I just have to meet my other Tribe Writer  friends in Germany, England, China, Canada, and the rest of the 50 States.

Have you ever met someone in person that you first met on-line?

Please tell me in the comments. I would love to chat.

The next session of Tribe Writers is starting soon. If you want to learn how to write, establish a community, and make life-long friends, consider taking Jeff Goins next eight week on-line course. It could change your life.

I am an affiliate for the course. If you sign up through my affiliate link, the course won’t cost you any more money. The money I earn will help buy kitty litter for my seven litter boxes.

There are two performances of the play Dorothy Meets Alice today, March 10th, 2013, at 1:00 and 4:00 p.m. If you live close to Telford, Pennsylvania, come out and meet Dorothy, Alice, The Tin-Man, Scarecrow, The Lion, The Dormouse, The Red Queen, The Mad-Hatter, Judson (Who is from New Jersey),  The Rabbit, and me, The Wicked Witch of the West. You can order your tickets on-line here.


About Pamela Hodges

My name is Pamela Hodges. I am a writer and an artist. I write to encourage and to bring laughter. I paint cats, draw cartoons and write books for children and grown ups.

You are an artist. Yes, you are. Really.

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  • I’ve been lucky enough to meet three friends I’ve made through blogging. Each has been lovely.

    … and I know that when you and I finally meet, Pamela, I’ll think the exact same thing!

  • Andrea

    I’ve made many friends through joining and chatting on the Mumford and Sons forum. We are all big fans and soon become Facebook friends. I arranged to meet Fiona from Scotland (I live in Cambridge, England) at one of their shows last year, and she is now one of my closest friends, despite the distance. We’ve met up 3 times since then and have more planned for this year. Barely a day goes by when we don’t chat online. Don’t know what I’d do without her 🙂

  • I have had this experience, at NCTE in Chicago in 2011. It was freaky…and freaky cool. One of the pleasures of the 21st century and its crazy technology. For all its negatives, its power to create communities of like minds is one of its greatest powers, methinks. They are of course different from communities where people live and work together, but of great value if the members have the right disposition.

  • I wish you could all meet Pamela Hodges, she is the cat’s meow. Literally. We had so much fun in the short time we had to share. It was so worth the trip to meet my friend.

  • Irina Peterson

    I met one cool guy on line and after we’ve met in person we got married.

    • pamelahodges

      How exciting Irena.

  • What a great story! I’ve only been able to connect with a couple of online friends in person. I hope to be able to have the opportunity to meet more!

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Eileen. 🙂

  • You make a cute witch. (Or should I say scary?) How fun to meet a fellow Tribewriter!

    • pamelahodges

      Scary on stage, cute when the three year old in a Alice in Wonderland costume wants my autograph.

  • We should have a Slice of Life Writers retreat somewhere really cool and we could all meet. What a fun time we would have!

    • pamelahodges

      Great idea Margaret. We would have fun.

  • I love this. Kudos to both you and Kathleen for making an online connection an offline one. It’s awesome when that happens.

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Master Goins. Writers really are cool.

  • Jaana

    I was able to meet Terje last summer when I was visiting family and friends in Finland. It is so much more fun to read her posts now that I have met her in person.

  • Tribe Writers sounds like a wonderful endeavor…and yes, I have met someone I first “met” online – Bonnie, from our very own Slicing community. And what a truly soul enriching experience that has been – she is now a treasured friend.

  • Pamela – I would love to meet you and many of the Tribe Writers in person. (And I wished I could have seen your play, but Texas is a little far.) I have met one other Tribe Writer, Susie Finney, but we had already met before the course. It would be so nice to have a Tribe Writers Conference so that many of us could get together.

    This is a great story!

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Joan.
      I would love to meet you. Perhaps Jeff Goins will consider a conference.

  • What a wonderful story Pamela!

    This tribe has brought together so many wornderful, exciting, interesting, artistic, caring individuals, blessing all of us with great connections.

    I am blessed with some wonderful and intimate friendships. So much looking forward to many more as I find the time to build such relationships.

    I have been blessed with physical friends throughout my life. Never though did I believe that online relationships could be just as intense, nurturing, and spiritual as they are.

    I am so glad you and Kathleen met and worked on the play, which sounds a lot of fun.
    I love the way you are “growing.” So happy for you!

    Blessings and Love, always

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Katina. Yes, who would have thought that Tribe Writers would become a family?

  • How. Fun. Seriously. And that is all I have to say about that. It’s just so cool . 🙂

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Brianna.

  • Terje

    I met Jaana from Jaana’s Writing Blog (http://justforamonth.blogspot.com/2013/03/sunday.html) last summer. She is originally from Finland and had come home to visit friends. With one of her pals she took a day trip to Tallinn. It would have been very sad not to meet her while she was in Estonia.

    • pamelahodges

      How fun that you got to meet her Terje. Yes, to be so close and not meet would have been sad.

  • elsie

    Isn’t it fun to meet up with someone you only know through their writing? I have met two fellow slicers (Kim: Learning Tour Writing Stop and Jee Young: Teach to Inspire). I hope to meet more someday. Of course you are on the list to meet. 🙂

    • pamelahodges

      You are on my list as well Elsie. I am delighted to be on your list. When we meet lets eat strawberries and go for a walk.

  • I’m so excited! I just remembered that I met a twitter friend just this past Friday in person!! I drove 26.2 km to meet her, although I’d go a lot farther if I had to! I have a pen pal in India (I know her husband but we’ve never met!) I’d love to go there to meet her.

    • pamelahodges

      Are you ever coming to Philadelphia to see The Liberty Bell, or where Ben Franklin is buried? I am an hour from there. Fun you met a twitter friend. 🙂

  • What a great story! I recently met one of my pen pals (Twitter pals?) in real life. We had been chatting on Twitter and Facebook for about three months when I made a reference to something in my city — Peoria, AZ.

    Tim Gallen immediately responded — I had no idea you lived in Peoria. We should hang out some time. After some scheduling conflicts, we finally grabbed a bite to eat. It was like old friends meeting for the first time — so comfortable, lots of laughter, stories and hearts shared.

    Then he gave me a ride home, and we both realized something ridiculous: We live about 2 miles from each other, but would have never meet if not for a series of 140 character bursts.

    • pamelahodges

      Chris, that is too funny that you only lived two miles apart. Small world.

  • How fun to meet your pen pal!! This was a joy to read! I have many pen pals that I hope to meet in person someday as well. Thanks for the smile. You look great in your costume!

    • pamelahodges

      Thank you Stacey. I would love to meet you. I will gladly be green to give you a smile any day.

  • I meant swing by North Virginia when I go to Canada.

  • Well Pamela, I hope to meet Kathleen in 2014 when I go to Canada. Meanwhile, I’m afraid it will have to be online. But as Anne says, if there is a Tribewriter’s conference and I’m in the States, of course I’d try to make it.

    I’m envious you guys are all on the same continent.

    • pamelahodges

      How fun, a trip to Canada. I am Canadian. My mother and brother live there. I would enjoy a Tribe Writers conference as well.

  • I only wish you were closer than 13 hours and 9 minutes, Pamela. I would have loved seeing you in the play.

    I’m so glad you got to meet Kathleen in person. I’m sure that was a treat.

    I have not met someone in person who I first met online. But, if we ever have a Tribers conference, I will then.

    • pamelahodges

      Anne, I wished you lived closer as well. I would love to meet you.