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Are you fragile?

Are you fragile?

Do you have a fragile sticker pasted to your forehead? If I asked you to describe yourself, would you say you were fragile? Are you  easily broken or destroyed?

I didn’t think I was fragile. But I today I realized I am.  I am easily broken. I have a fragile sticker pasted to my forehead.

Today when I was looking for a photograph in the basement I found a story, “A Year Apart” I had sent to Guidepost Magazine, dated June 26th, 2000.  The story was never published, and it has remained in my filing cabinet for the last twelve years. I didn’t send the story to another magazine. I didn’t write any more stories.

Last year, on January 1st, 2012, I tried to peel the sticker off my forehead when I started a blog and wrote my first article, Living in a perfect world. I didn’t put the story into a category or tag it; I didn’t want anyone to read it. I was afraid someone would laugh. When I hit the publish button on WordPress, I felt like I was standing in the middle of my street, naked. I felt vulnerable.

Last fall I took an on-line writing class, Tribe Writers, taught by Jeff Goins. He writes at Goinswriter.com. He  encourages writers  to share stories that matter; to write from the heart. I kept writing. I wrote, edited and published my stories.

The opportunity is not to have your resume picked from the pile but to lead…No one is going to pick you. Pick yourself.
Seth Godin – page 49: “The Icarus Deception”

In 1 year, 3 months and 5 days I have published 248 blog posts.  I don’t feel like I am in the street naked anymore. I share my stories and hope people will read them.

If no one reads my stories, I still write. If people read my stories and don’t like them, I still write. If I don’t feel like writing, I still write. If I feel like my writing is awful, I still write.

Take off your fragile sticker. Pick yourself.

Take off your fragile sticker



About Pamela Hodges

My name is Pamela Hodges. I am a writer and an artist. I write to encourage and to bring laughter. I paint cats, draw cartoons and write books for children and grown ups.

You are an artist. Yes, you are. Really.

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  • margaret simon

    Sometimes I am an idiot. I let this post sit in my google messages for a while. I don’t use it much, obviously. Are you on FB? I check that more often.

    Anyway, I love this post. I love how the blogs you write hit home with me every time. I am getting close to 200 posts, somewhere in the 170s, and I am thinking the same thing. I will take off the fragile sticker and just write.. And the funny thing is, almost every day I am surprised by who I may touch. It’s so important to keep writing. Thanks for adding me to your google circle.

    • Hello Margaret,
      I love to read your stories. I tried to find you on facebook, but couldn’t find your page. Here is the link to my page on facebook, https://www.facebook.com/PamelaHodgesWriter.

      Thank you for reading my story.
      Do you feel better after you took the fragile sticker off your forehead?

  • Denise Berry

    Dear Pamela: This article resonated with everything I’ve been reading lately and a whole lot of what I’ve been experiencing personally. I love the Godin quote and it really hit me hard today (in a good way!). Your article helped me move past fragile and into resilient. Thank you so much for sharing this. BTW I love the look of this blog and my next biggest task is to retool the old one I have and make it look as good as this one. Well done and I hope to keep reading more!

    • Denise, thank you for taking the time to comment. I am so happy my story helped you take the fragile sticker off of your forehead. I would love to read something you wrote. Will you please give me the link to your blog?

  • Joy Lenton

    Plenty I can say a wholehearted “Yes” to here. I kept my writing/poetry locked up for years. When I began a blog a few months ago it felt really scary, and still does as God calls me to peel back the layers of my life and share the painful things. Each time I press ‘publish’ I quake inside. It’s always a case of ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’. Thank you for sharing your own fragility, Pamela. We are all broken people living in an imperfect world, who grow stronger in the releasing of our fears. Lets’s have that sticker removal party! We’re braver than we know. Bless you 🙂

    • Good Morning Joy. Yes, we are braver than we know. I love your name. I had considered changing my middle name to Joy, but my middle name is my mother’s first name, so I don’t. Blessing to you Joy. Happy Sunday.

  • so glad that you didn’t stop writing!

    • Thank you Renee. I look forward to your reading your stories.

  • I am fragile and busted and broken. Every time I reveal something of myself on my blog, I quiver a bit on the inside. I hope nobody will say anything mean. But I choose me anyway.

    • Chris, I hope no one says anything mean as well. If they do, it’s because you are saying something worth saying. God chose you first. And as Bob the tomato would say, “God made you special and He loves you very much.”

      • I love Bob, but Mr. Lunt is my favorite. Mostly because of the song His Cheeseburger

  • Loved it Pamela. I have rejection letters from Good Housekeeping, and a few other large magazines. I too, stopped. But I was fortunate to start writing for publications even before Tribewriters. I believe my writing has gotten better.

    I love your writing and your open heart.

    • Thank you Anne. I didn’t read your writing before, so I can’t compare. I do know you touch my heart with your words and your honesty now.

  • Pleased to make your acquaintance. Your lede came up as a suggestion on my news service, probably due to the fact that I frequently practice on thewritepractice.com, Joe Bunting’s blog. Very encouraging words and I thank you!

    • Hello John, thank you for visiting and saying hello. You resemble a shoe. I know a cat who writes, http://www.thecatwhowrites.com, but I have never met a shoe who was a writer, musicain, poet and freethinker.

      • Yes, an aging old shoe with burrs in his shoestrings!

  • Of all the adjectives that come my way about you, fragile is not one of them. Sensitive to the needs of others; but, certainly not fragile. I’m thankful for your strength.

    • Thank you Shelley. Thank you very much. Perhaps my fragile sticker had already fallen off and I just didn’t notice.

  • Janelle

    What Kathleen said 🙂

    • We could have a sticker removal party. Would you like to come?

  • Pamela, I love your stories. I am so glad you are not stuck in that rut you once were like your fragile sticker. I am proud of you for continuing to write and share stories.

    When I feel fragile. I tell God. He listens to my story then repeats His will for me. Funny, He doesn’t let the messages He has burned in my heart stay filed.

    Even if no one reads what I write, I know God sees my heart and knows my story before I hit send.


    Shannon Cochran

    • Thank you Shannon for your encouragement. I like the idea of God knowing our hearts, and reading our stories before we publish them.

  • 1) yes I am fragile 2) I will pick myself.

    • Do you want to take the sticker off your forehead? I want to take mine off.