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Are you kinder to your dog than to your husband?

I love my dog Martha

My dog Martha was sick yesterday. She vomited on the carpet upstairs, twice. And she vomited in the basement three times. She looked sad.

I was looking for her vaccination records to take her to veterinarian when my daughter ran in the house from outside.

“Mom, Martha just pooped. It looks really weird.”

“What is it?”

“I don’t know. It looks like a huge pile of worms.”

When I went outside to investigate, Martha was no longer sad. She was running around and barking. She seemed relieved.

Martha had eaten a large pile of yarn. I cancelled the veterinarian appointment.

I love my dog. I love her even if she vomits on the carpet. I forgave her.

Sometimes dogs vomit. Life isn’t perfect. Expect trouble.


I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.

Jesus – God’s son. John 16:33

My husband doesn’t vomit on the carpet. He mows the lawn, throws his socks in the laundry hamper and washes his own plate after he eats. We have been married for 22 years, 8 months and 4 days.

When we said our marriage vows, we promised to love each other in all circumstances.

I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.

I love my husband. I love him when he is not perfect. I will always love him. I love him when we are in debt. I love him when he is sick and I will love him until we die.

Sometimes I am nicer to my dog than I am to my husband.

When Martha was sick I didn’t get angry at her because she made a mess. When my husband forgets to wash his plate I become angry. I am not quick to listen and slow to become angry.

My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.
James – The brother of Jesus. – James 1:19

Today I will be nice to my husband. I will treat him better than I treat Martha. I will feed him and take him for a walk. I will listen to him and not become angry.  I will scratch his back and wash his plate for him when he forgets. I will forgive him.

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
Paul -Colossians  3:13

Will you be nice to your husband today? 

Please let me know in the comments. I would love to chat, after I get back from a walk with my husband.


About Pamela Hodges

My name is Pamela Hodges. I am a writer and an artist. I write to encourage and to bring laughter. I paint cats, draw cartoons and write books for children and grown ups.

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  • Berdeane Bodley

    Now wouldn’t that be nice if we could remember to be loving & kind always, I am also a firm believer in that old adage “laughter is the best medicine”. So true!!!!
    always works for me.

  • Pamela today I had a lovely lunch date with mine as we have been married 11 years as of yesterday. We never take each other for granted and tell each other we love each other every day. We held hands and strolled through the streets after our lunch and laughed and joked together…laughter is the best medicine for keeping a happy relationship. Thanks for sharing your post and I hope you had a wonderful walk together and am glad your doggie is better too.

    • Happy Anniversary Kath. Thank you for the reminder to laugh, never take each other for granted and to say, “I love you” often. Martha says thank you.

  • oddznns

    Pamela, this hits the funny bone and makes a point. I will talk to my husband at lunchtime.

    • Thank you. Did you have a nice talk with your husband at lunchtime? I went for a nice walk with my husband last night.

  • Laura Naughton

    Love the dog. You capture a interesting truth. Why is that?

    • Hello Laura. I am not sure why I treat my dog better than my husband.
      I forgive my dog, so I harbor no ill will. I don’t always forgive my husband so I bring resentment into a new situation.

      • Laura Naughton

        Hi Pamela, That makes sense. Animals we receive unconditional love from and I notice we can love them back unconditionally. But WOW if it is a human we have those darn expectations that can get in our way!!! Great topic, thanks.

        • You are very welcome Laura. Thank you for commenting.

  • I’m reading a book about a cat called Dewey who ate rubber bands. I’m glad Martha was able to rid herself of the yarn. Poor thing. I like your advice about treating our husbands better than our dogs. As for taking him for a walk, I wonder if Ceasar Milan has suggestions for that.

    • Shelley,

      Hello dear friend. I am sorry I didn’t see your comment until today. What happened to Dewey in the book? Did he get really sick?
      I hope your husband is well.
      I just looked up Ceasar Milan, the dog whisperer. I wonder if he has any suggestions as well.

  • Janelle

    This is great. I hope he enjoyed the walk. Sometimes I treat pretty much the whole world better than I treat my husband. It happens, but we always find our way back to friendship.

    • We haven’t gone on a walk yet. Soon. I was at church all morning holding babies. I like that expression, “We always find our way back to friendship.”

  • My husband is my friend. He makes me really mad because he pretends to be listening, then he doesn’t remember any of the details, since he was only pretending to listen. But he is still my friend. I will be nice to him today, especially since he is moving the shed.

    • The next time he is only pretending to listen, ask him if he wants to take you out to dinner. He may say yes.
      Did the shed get moved?
      Friends forever, even when he makes you mad. A nice promise.

      • Yes it did! With the help of Joe and his two buddies.

        • Thank you for the photograph. I’ll bet you are glad I didn’t take a photograph of the dog vomit.

          • Truly grateful. But I still love Martha.

          • Forgive me for blowing up your page with a picture of my shed. Do you want me to take it down?

  • Pamela,
    Cute post. I remember a time God convicted me regarding my relationship with my husband. I came home and asked him, “Mike, do you consider me your friend?”

    He immediately responded, “Yes.”

    I then said, “I don’t consider you MY friend. When I share this story in my speaking engagements, this is where women gasp. I wasn’t trying to be mean, just honest. Well God decided to teach me what honor looked like. Apparently I was missing that in our marriage.

    Happy to say it helped a lot. Mike and I will be married 37 years on July 3rd. And he is my friend now, I’m happy to report. At least most days. 🙂

    • Thank you Anne. I am happy you and Mike are friends, at least most days. And an early Happy Anniversary wish to you.