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Red Lights and “The In-Between”

Does stopping for a red light make you mad?

My life feels like a car driving on a road with a full tank of gas and only green lights ahead. There is no time to slow down, no time to rest and catch my breath. I am constantly racing ahead to the next event. I don’t like the times in between. I don’t like red lights that make me stop.

Maybe the good stuff isn’t ahead or behind us. Maybe it’s somewhere in-between.
Jeff Goins – The In-Between

I hate stopping at red lights, but I think I need one.

I need a red light.

I need to enjoy the time spent at red lights. I actually need some in between time to breathe.

Do you get mad when you have to stop at a red light?

This morning I sat at the bank for thirty-two minutes before a banker could see me. There were two people in line ahead of me. A woman and a man. The woman kept clutching her bag and looking at her watch; the man sat back and looked like he was sleeping.

After reading The In Between, by Jeff Goins, I have been living more in the moment, enjoying the wait. Even if it just a few minutes in a chair at the bank.

After I talked to the banker I said, “My friend Jeff Goins just published a book, The In-Between. It’s about enjoying the time you spend waiting. Waiting for the next big thing.  Most of our life is spent waiting. There is no reason to be mad about the wait.”

“Suggest the book to our customers. They’re always mad when they have to wait.”

Do you hate waiting?

I do.

I hate waiting. Waiting to grow up, waiting for an airplane, waiting to get married, waiting to get pregnant, waiting for the child to be born,  waiting for the child to grow up, waiting for the child to leave, waiting to die. ( The last one I can wait a long time for. )

My life is lived in the waiting, in the in between,  the red lights and the moments at the bank. Today is what counts.

I long to live well with whatever time I have left. I had better get started.
Jeff Goins – The In-Between

Me too Jeff. Me too. I long to live well.

It is time to start.

If you order the in-between  this week Jeff Goins will give you all kinds of bonuses, $24o.oo worth.

Did you sit at a red light today? Did it make you mad?

Actually the red light has no control over your emotions. Did you choose to be mad?



About Pamela Hodges

My name is Pamela Hodges. I am a writer and an artist. I write to encourage and to bring laughter. I paint cats, draw cartoons and write books for children and grown ups.

You are an artist. Yes, you are. Really.

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  • I am a very impatient waiter, especially in lines, especially when the person at the front of the line is taking an inordinate amount of time to transact their business. Patience is a fruit of the spirit, I must remind myself. Patience.

  • Lorna_Faith

    Great reminder Pamela…to enjoy the wait instead of rushing through life! Wonderful post 🙂

    • Thank you Lorna. Perhaps I need to sing when I am waiting?

      • Lorna_Faith

        …well I know I find singing very soothing…so that would be awesome 🙂

  • Tammy Schaefer

    Pamela, I hate to wait to, but hate not living more. Thanks for the reminder to choose to enjoy the wait. Jeff has is right. I too want to live well with the life I have left and I’m getting to it. Great tribute to Jeff’s book.

    • Thank you Tammy. I don’t know if I would have waited as well if I had not read the book.

  • Robn Patrick

    I bought the book but haven’t read it yet. After your comments I want to get into it!

    • Hello Robin,
      I would love to know if you had a favorite part in the book. It helped me to slow down and hugs more.