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Be proud and wear your “Stay-at-Home-Mom” shirt

Be proud of what you do

Last Sunday our church had a picnic. At the picnic there was a,  “Professional Bull Rider.” How do I know that? The sleeve on his shirt said “Professional Bull Rider.” It was embroidered on the sleeve.

He wore a white cowboy hat, his professional bull rider shirt, jeans and boots.

He could have worn a plaid shirt to church, or maybe a green t-shirt, but he decided to wear the shirt that would tell people who he was.

If someone asked him, “What do you do?”

I think he would say, “I am a Professional Bull-Rider.”

Now I regret not talking to him.  I can only guess what he would say.

If I asked you, “What do you do?”

What would you say?

Would you say, “I am a writer?” or “I am an artist.” Would you say, “I am a stay-at-home-mom?”

The biggest mistake you can ever make it to compare yourself to others. – Gideon
― Jacquelyn Frank, Adam

Sometimes I  hesitate to say what I do. I will say I am a writer, but I don’t like to say I am a stay-at-home mom.

There are days when I feel like I am less-than because I don’t work outside of the home. I don’t bring home a pay-check. My value feels tied to a dollar sign.

I know I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Proverbs tells me. But there are days when I struggle to believe it.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
Psalm 139:14

My value needs to be in how God sees me, and not in how the magazines say I have value. The magazines say I am valuable if I am thin,  have no gray hair,  am young and have a job.

I wonder how much it would cost to embroider on the sleeve of my shirt, “Stay-at-Home-Mom?”  And at the next church picnic I will swagger through the crowd wearing my, “Stay-at-Home- Mom” shirt.

When you fill out a form at the doctor’s office, what do you write on the line that says, “What do you do?”

Whatever you  do, say it with pride, like the Bull-Rider did.

You have value. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

What do you do?

Please tell me in the comments. I would love to chat.


About Pamela Hodges

My name is Pamela Hodges. I am a writer and an artist. I write to encourage and to bring laughter. I paint cats, draw cartoons and write books for children and grown ups.

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  • Jennifer Higney

    I often feel just like you do, that I am worthless because all I do is stay home and raise my children. But as all stay at home moms’ know, it is no easy task. No, my friend, it is not! I am molding my children to be wonderful human beings, to follow their dreams, and to never give up. Everyday day I love, and everyday also brings new challenges I face. I would proudly wear a SAHM shirt, we can start a club! You can also follow me on my journey of motherhood, and feeling lost through WordPress lifeonthespincycle.com! Thank you so much for this enlightening post Pamela!

  • I dare you to wear a shirt with SAHM on it, Pamela. I like talking to strangers. Met some interesting ones. Like a US champion our-rigger canoeist, who sat next to me on the plane. Next time chat with the bull rider.

    • I accept the dare. Now to make the shirts.
      And I will look for the bull rider. I wish I had talked to him too. He really did swagger.

  • Good points!

  • I’m not even a SAHM, but I would buy a t-shirt, because I believe it’s the highest calling of God to the family. Bits and Pieces is what I am, the lines all blur.

    • Shelley, your bits and pieces have several of them that say, Friend and Teacher and Delightful and Wonderful and Beautiful.

  • Melissa Wheeler

    I think making T-shirts would be a great idea! There are so many times I’ve been to my kids parties and the moms ask what do you do? I say I am a just a stay at home mom! they usually chime in with oh don’t say just, being a Mom is a big job and usually I don’t even mean it that way. I mean, I am no different than the working mom! (my mom worked two jobs) I just get tired of definitions and stereotypes. Working Moms say sometimes, Oh HOOW nice for you! very snidely. (like I sit around eating bon bons all day.) I say I need a t-shirt that says M.O.M Mom on a mountain or Mission!

    • Melissa,
      Today I will say what I do and not say, “Just” anymore. Sending you hugs today as you take care of your children.

  • Pamela Hand

    Pamela, I would buy one of those shirts! I would wear it to to doctors office, the dentists office etc. It would be fun! On forms, I usually write a whole list of things. It was fun to do that. I am not defined so easily. Really, no one should be defined so easily. We are fearfully and wonderfully made! I think I want a shirt that says: Fearfully and Wonderfully Made.

    • Pamela,
      We can wear our shirts together. Now to make them.

  • Stacey Shubitz

    BTW: Artist-lady. I think you should design a line of SAHM shirts. I think they could be great sellers for women who should be proud of what they do!

    • What a fun idea Stacey! I will make up some cartoons and find a way to sell them. May I send you the sketches to see what you think?

      • Stacey Shubitz


  • Stacey Shubitz

    I LOVE this post, Pamela. I have trouble answering what it is I do. I consult. I write. I blog. I raise my daughter. There is no clear answer. I love all of the things I do, but I still have trouble saying “I’m a stay at-home mom.” I’ve written it on forms a couple of times (as in “Literacy Consultant/SAHM”) and it always feels strange. I don’t think I’ve ever said it out loud even though I’m with my daughter most of each week.
    I will remember this post and your words of wisdom the next time someone asks me what it is I do.

    • Hello Stacey,
      I have sat stumped staring at this question as well. The last time I was asked I write down, “Writer,” on the form. The next time I will write down, Stay-at-Home- Mom.

  • Janelle

    Love this, Pamela. Sometimes being a stay at home mom feels like a wild ride.

    • Hello Janelle,
      Yes, a wild ride. A wild ride on a donkey holding a chicken?

  • Sandy Kreps

    Lovely post. This is definitely something I struggle with now that I no longer work full time. But yes, I am a writer. I am a graphic designer. And I am a stay-at-home mom.

    • You are many things Sandy, and all of them are valuable. 🙂

  • Christa Sterken

    important post Pamela, wear your shirt with pride

  • I always write “Homemaker”. It rarely ever happens any more that I say that I’m “just” a stay at home mom. I used to feel intimidated or like I hadn’t reached my full potential by not attending college or having a job, but I don’t anymore. Now, I can say that I am a stay at home mom who educates her children while tending to the home fires. I am a musician, a writer, and a thinker. I am a giver, a bread baker, a lover and a friend! I am all kinds of different things and in all of that, I am complete because He made me so. I loved this encouraging post. Thank you, thank you for the blessing of your post today!

    • Yes, Jhona, you are a Homemaker. You are precious in His sight. And our full potential is not measured by the degrees we possess or the size of our pay-check. “I am all kinds of different things and in all of that, I am complete because He made me so.” I loved what you said.
      Thank you for letting me know my post blessed you today. You in turn have blessed me.
      Thank you.

  • Winnie Moyer

    Today I am VERY blessed by your blog. If I were at a family function I would not wear a shirt that said missionary, but you know what I am and I do love everything I get to do! I AM fearfully and WONDERFULLY made, I am not a failure as a missionary (even if some say I am) Thank you Pamela for this post, you are an amazing stay at home mom doing a wonderful job raising your children!!

    • Winnie,
      You are fearfully and WONDERFULLY made. The angels sang on the day your were born.
      Thank you for your encouragement.

  • I am a writer, poet and speaker. Loved the blog, Pamela.

  • I remember hearing once that in traditional black churches they used to wear uniforms, because in society the church members didn’t receive recognition or respect. If it takes a uniform or a name tag to get the proper respect that you deserve, then by all means, wear one.

    • Kathleen,
      I think my biggest problem is in how I perceive myself. The Professional Bull-Rider helped me see that. I want to swagger in my role.