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Smile. You are Beautiful.

smileyouarebeautiful

It was one of those days.

Have you ever had one?

Have you ever had a day when you don’t want to smile?

A day when you feel ugly. A day when you feel like the pores on your nose are as big as a 2HB pencil, and the lines on your forehead resemble the tracks the wagon trains left on the prairies. You have been wearing the same pair of jeans for two weeks straight because you can’t fit into any of your other pants and you haven’t done laundry. Your hair is pulled back  and hidden under a hat because you forgot to shower this morning.

And then you see it.

In the window on a second-hand store is a hand chalked sign.

Smile. You are Beautiful.

The person writing the sign doesn’t know you. They didn’t think, Hmmm, Margaret, or John or Rebecca  is going to walk past my store and I want them to know they are beautiful. It was a random act of kindness. A small message of hope to encourage someone who needed it.

And we need it.

A reminder to smile. A reminder that we are beautiful.

 

We need to be reminded we are beautiful because we live in a retouched world. We live in a world where no-one in a magazine has wrinkles or visible pores.

We are beautiful even if our nose has large pores.  We are beautiful even if our forehead has ruts running across it. We are beautiful even if our clothes don’t fit and we have cellulite on our thighs.  We are beautiful even if we have to shower. We may be smelly, but we are still beautiful.

We are beautiful because God, who created us, doesn’t make mistakes. God didn’t say, “Only the people who are a size six and are over five feet eight inches tall are beautiful.”  I looked for a reference for that in the Bible and I couldn’t find it. However I did find this.

For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well. Psalm 139: 13-14

  Yes, that’s right. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

Do you lay awake at night thinking, “Oh! If only I had smaller pores on my nose then I would be beautiful.”?

You are beautiful with a large green piece of lettuce on your teeth. People might stare, but you are still beautiful. You are beautiful with gray hair and wrinkles and large pores on your nose.

And why are you beautiful? You are beautiful because God made you and He loves you very much.

And if you ever feel like not smiling, remember: God doesn’t make mistakes. Then smile. 

Remember, kids. God made you special.
Bob the Tomato.

And he loves you very much.
Larry the cucumber

And who can argue with Bob and Larry? Not me.

As always I love to hear from you. If you would like to comment on this story, please click  here. I would love to chat, you beautiful friend, you.

About Pamela Hodges

I write slice of life stories to help you know you are loved, valuable and worthy just as you are. I am a writer, an artist, and a cleaner of seven litter boxes. I live in Pennsylvania with one husband, four cats, one dog and two birds.

You are an artist. Yes, you are. Really.

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  • Hallo my beautiful, vivacious, pretty marvelous and magnificent friend Pamela. I missed you and I’m sure you miss mojito and me too. Io sono imperaro Italiano. So I learn my Italian and write sentences in Italian. Not in English and definitely not publishable. I’m still on grade 1 level. Io sono una donna bella con tu sei una donna bella.
    As long as you are happy with your weight etc. then you are beautiful. But if not and you give those reasons for feeling un-beautiful. Well then you must do something about it. Exercise your body and mind until you are.
    Love you lots,
    Pxx

    • Hello beautiful lady.
      So happy to hear from you.
      I am doing something about my weight. It is either exercise or buy new clothes. And my mind is getting exercise too. I am teaching myself InDesign. It is time to learn how to format my own books.
      I do miss your writing. I loved your recent story about learning Italian. Will you please post the link to it here?
      Sending you hugs.
      xo
      Pamela

      • Hey you, Anyway that is why we go the gym every day. I’m still have a layer of ‘insulation’ or ‘blubber’ – but imagine what I would have looked like if I didn’t exercise. Love good food and wine. I am living in a famous wine region after-all and life is much too short to be on a diet all the time.
        Do like the French do… love your food – but everything in moderation.
        Here is the link to Flirting in Italian…
        http://wp.me/p3okvN-FV

  • Kathy Storrie

    My insult was, “if you would lose ten to fifteen pounds you would look really great!!” Now I know they were wrong. I was happy then and I am happy now the way I am.

    • Hi Kathy,
      I don’t understand the thought patterns of people who say rude comments. And, yes, they were wrong. You were beautiful then and you are beautiful now.

  • I think everyone needs to know they are beautiful and since you gave us the basis, God created us, we all ARE beautiful. Thanks Pamela.

  • Christa Sterken

    This was very touching Pamela, thank you for sharing your heart. I too grew up just “knowing” that I’d be so pretty…if…. but just one influential person. It totally erased all the positive things I heard from my mom and others. I was 40 before I really realized beauty isn’t about the package that houses my spirit. I DO like what I see now, no matter what, I try and celebrate it. The shadows under the droopy parts, the bumps and lumps. Whatever! God sees us as beautiful

    • Thank you Christa.
      God does see us as beautiful. I had so many people tell me I would be so pretty if…I wore make-up or contacts.
      It was hard to drown our their comments.
      Now I smile.

  • La McCoy

    I woke up today reading it is healthy to laugh. I promised my self to laugh as much as a child. Then I went to a negative appointment and i want to cry. I still want to cry, but I am remembering to smile.

    • Hello La,
      I am sorry you had a negative appointment. Sending you airmail hugs.
      xo
      Pamela

  • Anastacia

    Pamela, this really touches me. I have been told so many times in my life that I’d be beautiful if I wore makeup. My husband likes me better without makeup. My dad doesn’t like make up either.

    Recently I was told by a couple that was giving us advice about our upcoming mission endeavors that I needed to wear makeup. In fact they said that I was hurting my husband’s ministry by not wearing makeup. People will judge me for not wearing makeup.

    Do you know how much that hurt? I cried all the way home even in front of my husband and children.

    My husband wishes he could take that horrible moment away from me. I tend to replay those scenes in my mind. I relive memories very easily as if I were still there in the moment.

    I’ve been struggling with Rosacea and from what I have read makeup just makes rosacea worse. I’ve been trying so hard to find something that will wipe away the redness on my face that I have made my face even redder.

    Just recently I’ve decided I need to stop trying so hard and just let my face rest. I’ve found a soap that I like for sensitive skin and a lotion that has very few ingredients. I’m going to stop trying so hard and just accept the skin God gave me. As long as I can get it to quit itching after all the topical “cures” I’ve tried. *sigh*

    Why do we do this to ourselves? It’s really not worth it.

    Interesting thing is that I actually thought about writing a blog post about my problem. I might just do that. Thank you, Pamela, for putting it all into perspective.

    • Anastacia,
      You are beautiful.
      The woman who gave you “advice” is wrong. What she said is mean, nasty, and unkind. (Also not true.)
      I just looked in the Bible and I didn’t find any verses that say you will harm your husband’s ministry by not wearing make-up.
      And the only judgement that matters is what Jesus thinks. And he loves you.
      Be you.
      You are beautiful.
      p.s. Their “advice,” falls into the category of unsolicited advice. The only time advice should be given is if it is life-threatening, or requested.
      xo
      Pamela

    • La McCoy

      Anastacia, I am so sorry to hear this. In this world there are folks that sill judge and reject others on face value. (Not meant to be a giggle). I do not believe God does. And i do my best to ignore those that do. Love you.
      What more do we need to make us beautiful than a smile that lights up the world?

    • Christa Sterken

      That makes my heart ache for you. IF you want to wear makeup, I have heard Bare Minerals is the best at covering rosacea in a less “makeup-y” way. And if you don’t? How preposterous to suggest that your ministry efforts would be less than without…did the Disciples wear makeup and fine clothes and comb their hair perfectly when they spread the message about Jesus? No, and look how far the message went. You are an amazing woman my friend, and THAT is what will share your work not your falsely colored face

  • Berdeane Bodley

    Well I don’t have ruts on my forehead because my daughter would never let me raise my eyebrows. EVER, why I don’t have huge pores on my nose I do not know, can’t be frm not raising my eyebrows, I always smile, when one smiles, you somehow feel better & make the world a better place for everyone to be in. If someone is sad & they see you smile it makes them smile & the suddenly feel much better too………….did I use the right too????

    • Good Morning dearest Mother of mine,
      You are beautiful Mom. Beautiful on the outside and on the inside.
      xo
      Love you daughter.