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Silence the negative sound track in your brain and put your trophy on the mantel

My youngest daughter gave me a trophy last year for Mother’s Day, “World’s Greatest Mom 2014.” But, I kept the trophy in the basement.

Stop the negative self talk

A few minutes ago, as I was loading the dishwasher, she came up the stairs holding my trophy. “Why is this in the basement?”

“I use to have my writing studio downstairs. I wanted to see it when I was working. I forgot to bring it up.”

But, really, I didn’t bring the trophy up from the basement because I didn’t want to be reminded. I didn’t want to be reminded that I am “The World’s Worst Mom.” But, wait, that is not what the trophy says. 

Yes, I know. But every time I see the trophy. I think, Someone else should have been given the trophy.

And why do I think I am a horrible mother? I am a horrible mother because I do not remind my daughter to brush her teeth. And I make my daughter do her own laundry. And, if she spills milk on the counter I go and find her and get her to clean it up. And sometimes I help her clean her room. I don’t make her clean it herself.

The problem is not the trophy, the problem is negative self talk. I don’t believe the award.

Do you have ever a negative sound track going through your head? Sometimes it is on a continual loop. Chattering away, “You are such a horrible mother, you are bad at parenting, why did you let her stay up so late? and on and on, ____________ fill in the blank. 

Silence the negative sound track in your brain

The truth is we, not just me, we need to silence the sound track that wants to defeat and discourage us. You might have similar sound tracks about other parts of your life. Maybe your negative soundtrack is about your marriage, or why you are still single. The negative sound track could be related to your job or even to your worth as a person.

So, today, I say, “Put your trophy on your mantel. And, if you don’t have one. Go ahead and get one made.”

Silence the negative voice. And if you silence the negative voice, you need to replace it with the loud positive voice. So make a new sound track. Something like this.

God made me. I am special. I am valued and treasured. I am worthy. I am smart. I am beautiful. I am loved. 

There are a few rules. No, really only one rule. Your new sound track can only be positive words of affirmation. No negative self-talk. You are not allowed to say, “I am beautiful, if I lost ten pounds.”

Nope. Not allowed.

You are beautiful. Right now, right this very minute. With your hair needing to be washed, and your teeth needing to be brushed. You are beautiful.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.
Philippians 4:8 NIV

Get a trophy made that says “I am loved” and put it on your mantel

I am serious. Go and get a trophy made. If I had enough money I would buy everyone a trophy that said,  “I am loved.”

So let’s go and make our new sound track; and remember what Larry the Cucumber said:

God made you special and He loves you very much.
― Larry The Cucumber

The trophy from my youngest daughter is sitting on the mantel.  It  reminds me my daughter loves me, and it reminds me to be the mom she thinks I am. A great one. 

You are loved

I will be right back. First I have to see who left the empty gallon of milk on the counter.

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About Pamela Hodges

I write slice of life stories to help you know you are loved, valuable and worthy just as you are. I am a writer, an artist, and a cleaner of seven litter boxes. I live in Pennsylvania with one husband, four cats, one dog and two birds.

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  • Berdeane Bodley

    Each & every Mother the world over is the best Mother she can be, we don’t have to be like any other Mother, we are doing our level best to be the best Mother we know how to be, & we are!!!

    • Hello Mother,
      My dear mother who is the “World’s Greatest Mother.”
      Yes, we don’t have to be like any other mother. We do what we think is best for our children. And we love them unconditionally.
      I love you Mom,
      xo
      Pamela

  • DA Schuhow

    Our minds are made to ruminate, science bears this out. We were originally designed to ruminate on attributes of God. I don’t know how but ruminating on God’s words gives us power.

    • Hello DA,
      I don’t know how either. But I always feel better when I have God’s love for me in my heart and mind.
      Hugs to you.
      xo
      Pamela

  • My soundtracks are looped so they just play over and over. But I am in the process of working through some of them. I want to render them ineffective so that when I hear a positive thing the negative things don’t silence it. Loved your post, Pamela.

    • Hello Anne,
      Here are a few words to add to the negative soundtrack. No, wait, first, here is a hammer. Please smash the old soundtrack.

      And here is your new one. A brand new sound track that is looped. “I am fearfully and wonderfully made. God knows when I sit and when I lay down. He loves me. I am not my past. I am not the evil that was done to me as a child. Today I am Anne. The Anne that God made. I am loved. I am special. I am brilliant. (Yes, you have to say brilliant. I insist.) I am creative. And I am beautiful. I am cute. I am loved.
      xo
      Love Pamela

      • Thank you Pamela. And please add this to your list when you say things to yourself. “I am sensitive.” Because you are. You really are.

  • Dana Murphy

    Ha, love the ending, Pamela! I think mothers are so guilty of this – always second guessing our parenting decisions. i hope you’ll display your trophy loud and proud from now on.

    Also, this Slice was made for me today. Look what I just published 5 minutes ago:

    https://murphyslawblog.wordpress.com/2015/03/16/my-person/

    I think I need to buy myself a trophy!

    • Hello Dana,
      The trophy will remain on display from now on. “Loud and proud.” And how funny you were thinking a similar thought.

      What will you put on your trophy? And I am serious. Go and get one made. Never forget you are beautiful and loved. Your husband sounds like a wonderful man.
      xo
      Pamela

      • Heather Spence

        Hi Pamela, I loved your post. This is exactly what I have been working on. God gave us a brain that we can renew every day! We can choose to burn all the bridges to our past experiences that helped us to develop these toxic thoughts. We can choose to believe the truth. We can choose to get better from the experiences or to get bitter. We can replace the toxic thought patterns with true, life affirming ones. They say it takes 26 days of doing this to change a toxic thought pattern into a healthy pattern. Get those trophies on the shelf! Thanks Pam

        • Hello Heather,
          Better or bitter.
          Here is looking forward to the next 26 days of a new sound track. I am embarrassed to say, I often choose bitter. Time to believe the truth.
          I look forward to seeing you at the high school reunion next year.
          xo
          Pamela