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Dear Mother on the highway texting with your baby in the back-seat

The black car almost side-swiped me. The tires of the black four-door sedan crossed the orange line and they were partially in my lane. Dear Mother on the highway texting with your baby in the backseat, put down your phone.


Dear Mother,

I saw you today, 2:38 PM, on Highway 422 West. You were driving in the far left-hand lane of a three lane highway. I was driving in the middle lane. Put down your phone. Did you know you almost hit me?

I saw you cross the orange line and your tires were completely in my lane. You almost hit me. As I drove past you, I glanced into your car. You weren’t looking at the road, you were looking at your phone. Put down your phone. Did you know you almost hit me?

I saw your child in the back-seat. Facing forward you put your baby in the safest spot in the car. She wasn’t old enough to be in the front seat. Her head didn’t clear the top of her car seat. 

I know you think you are good at driving and texting. I know you think you can handle driving and looking at your phone. You think you can handle it because you still do it. You still look at your phone while you drive.

Dear Mother,

Did you know

Did you know 23% of auto accidents in 2011 involved a cell phone?
Did you know five seconds is the minimal amount of time your attention is taken away from the road, If you are driving at 55 mph, that equals driving the length of a football field blind?
Did you know that when a person dies they are gone forever?
Did you know bad things can happen to good people?

Dear Mother,

Would you like to know how to safely use your cell phone when you are driving?

You can’t. There is no such thing. If is never safe to use your cell phone while you are driving.

Keep you cell phone in your pocket or in your purse. Don’t take it out. If you are expecting a phone call, pull over, and park in a safe area, like a parking lot, or in a residential neighborhood, on the side of the road. Don’t pull over on the highway to use your phone. Ever.

If you want to tell someone you will be late. Don’t.

Dear Mother,

Put down your phone.

Your baby is in the back seat.


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Other Resources

Texting and Driving Safely

Distracted Driving

Driver Safety Education


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  • Sue Sutherlin

    Yikes! So scary, and SO glad you are OK!! PUT DOWN THE PHONE when driving!

  • Berdeane Bodley

    Dear Mother, put down your phone, you could have killed MY DAUGHTER, & how many others? They say one has to forgive, I’m sorry, kill MY DAUGHTER & I will never forgive, EVER!!! So happy you are safe Pamela. Linda Baie has a good idea, send the post to a newspaper, post it on Facebook & link to twitter. hugs from Mother.

    • Yeah Lady, put down your phone.
      You are on the highway, what is wrong with your brain?
      Hugs to you mother.

  • MaryAnne

    Pamela, The on button to a cell phone should power down the car….
    like the car can’t operate if a cellphone is on. Do you know what I’m saying?
    Is that just common sense? Where is modern technology when you really need it?
    I liked your story… glad you and the child with the crazy mom are safe.

    • Hi MaryAnne,
      What a great idea. I don’t know why people just can’t wait to look at their phone.
      Who needs to be in contact 24 – 7?
      Oh my. Look at the road, not at your phone.

  • EmFairley

    So glad you’re all safe. I hope and pray that somehow the texting mother of the precious babe reads this and takes notice, before it’s too late. And that others who insist on doing the same also take note and change their ways

    • Hi Em,
      Thank you. I don’t think people will change unless they see the result of an accident.
      Sad, sad, sad.

  • I can’t tell you how many times I’ve met another car, only to see they are looking down. I, too, have had several close calls from cars veering into my lane. No person is worth a text while I’m driving. There is always an empty parking lot, or the side of the road. I’m thankful everyone is safe. It may not be so good the next time she texts.

    • Me too Shelley,
      People have lost the ability to be reasonable. Nothing is so important it can’t wait.
      I hope the mother realized.

  • I’m happy your are okay, but oh, every week there is another accident due to texting. This is powerful, Pamela, maybe you need to send it to a newspaper, post it on Facebook & link to twitter?

    • Hi Linda,
      Thank you for your concern.
      I don’t think the mom had any idea she had wandered into my lane. I was scared to honk in case I startled her and she lost control of the car.

  • Pamela

    Wow – that’s all I have to say. In the flash of an instant her whole life could change forever.

  • SJR1991

    OMG, I am glad you are safe, and I hope that mother and her baby got home safely, but you are so right! I am so leery of driving these days because of these other drivers. It’s hard to know what to do, though, when people drive while holding their phones, or even texting(!). Until they have an accident, they think it will never happen. But the accident can never unhappen once it does.

    • Hello SJR1991,
      Thank you for your concern. I hope the mother got home safely too. So irresponsible.
      Yes, the accident can’t unhappen once it does.
      Hope you are having a nice day today.