Burnt peas, self-worth and being kind to yourself
I burnt the peas again. I burnt them three times this morning. The first two times, they were just a little burnt. I dumped the peas out of the pan and tried again. The last time, I burnt the bottom of the pan black. I ate my sardines with no peas.
I am worthless. I can’t do anything right.
My self-worth is based on how well I cook peas. I continually burn my peas in the morning, therefore I am worthless.
If my friend burnt the peas I would say to them, “Hey, it’s okay to make mistakes. Let’s cook some more peas.” Or I might say to them, after I listen and help clean the pot, “Maybe you need a timer, or maybe don’t leave the room while you are cooking.”
Be kind to yourself; we need to treat ourselves like a friend. I need to talk to myself as kind as I would talk to a friend.
Crap, I burnt the peas again. Oh well. I made a mistake, now let’s try again to make peas.
“Never forget that once upon a time, in an unguarded moment, you recognized yourself as a friend.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert
What are you worth?
Remember, we are not the pot of peas. We are not what we make or burn. If we look for validation as a person based on how well we perform we are trying to find stability on sand as the tide is coming in.
Stand on a rock, be whole and complete as yourself. When you burn the peas, sing a note off-key, get a bad review on a book, fall while dancing on stage, or trip while walking, remember who you are. Your value is not based on what you do.
You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
I hope you have a wonderful day getting to spend time with yourself, with a friend. Now, to make another pot of peas.
Do you base your self-worth on if you can cook peas without burning them?
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p.s. any hints on how not to burn the peas are welcome. 🙂
About Pamela Hodges
My name is Pamela Hodges. I am a writer and an artist. I write to encourage and to bring laughter. I paint cats, draw cartoons and write books for children and grown ups.